I dated a narcissist for a very long time… you might be wondering if you’re dating one. I can tell you one thing, if you think you are, you likely are.
The traits a narcissist carries:
- They’re amazing at first impression, they charm you , they’re personable. Someone you can really see yourself getting along with.
- They lack empathy.
- Have sense of entitlement.
- Need to be admired at all times.
- They aren’t always loud and outgoing, some are quiet and shy.
- They tend to flip conversations around often so the topic is about themselves.
- They like nice things.
- Appearance is everything to them, not only their own but everyone else’s too.
- Love to criticize
- They’re cheaters
In my personal experience dating a narcissist, I found that the lows were extreme lows and highs were extreme highs. He had a way of bringing me down and bringing me up at the same time.
Ill tell you one thing about these people, they are so manipulative that you will not be able to find a way out. I can remember leaving him so many times and he would come back crying about how sorry he was and how he has issues… Needless to say his “change” wouldn’t be change for long.
He had a way of making me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world but the ugliest at the same time. He made me feel like the worst girlfriend in the world, but at the same time the best.
I look back now and think wow… that was REALLY messed up. I suffered many years with his lies and manipulation. It’s funny because at the time, you don’t realize it. Don’t feel stupid because I can assure you it isn’t your fault. Its just how toxic these people are.
These people tend to go for people that are kind, beautiful and confident. They want you for themselves so badly but they want to make sure that they bring you down at the same time so that no one else would ever want you (so they think).
You’ll find that one day will be amazing, the next day they will wake up in a mood and everything’s gone to shit. I remember one thing in particular about dating a narcissist, he would NEVER tell you what was wrong. He would keep it in and treat me like garbage for days if he needed to. Its amazing, it’s like they really do want you to suffer… but only enough that you wont leave them.
I’m here to tell you that these people do not change! I waited years and years and I know first hand that it would take ALOT of therapy depending on the person. Stop letting these people bring you down! Once you move on, you’ll find happiness and someone else will be waiting for you with open arms. Stop doing this to yourself, you only think its love!
Are you dating a narcissist? Need advice? Any comments?